Sad thread.

Discussion in 'Member Guit-togethers' started by xtomx2000, Mar 17, 2019.

  1. jefffam

    jefffam Dr. Squier

    Age:
    61
    Jan 26, 2015
    Portland, TN
    I had to take a little time to consider my answer/comment.

    You have my deepest, most sincere condolences on the loss of your wife. My wish for you is not the absence of grief, but a dulling of the sharpness, that pierces down through the soul.

    I have somewhat of a familiarity with your situation. I lost my wife, best friend, compatriot, lover and the best part of my life for 34 years in June of last year. Unlike you, the acute medical issue was very short lived. Three days and she was gone. I still many, many times a day think I must show/tell/share this with Lisa, then the wall of she's not here slams down. While I only have one of the two guitars she gave me, she was an active participant in the purchase of so many, most all were from or through her. It is impossible to enunciate the loss and hole in my life that is left. Time will blunt the sharpness of the pain, but not remove it. My best wishes to you.

    Jeff

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  2. xtomx2000

    xtomx2000 Squier-Nut

    528
    Jun 7, 2014
    Hamburg, Germany
     
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  3. jtees4

    jtees4 Squier-Meister

    302
    Jun 7, 2012
    NYish
    So very sorry! Don't have a clue what to say. Just truly sorry. I am 10 years older than you, and while I've had many issues, mine feel small today compared to yours.
     
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  4. cheapgtrs

    cheapgtrs Squier-Meister

    210
    Apr 4, 2015
    49117
    Beautifully said. She is with you always. RIP

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  5. archetype

    archetype Squier-Nut

    966
    Oct 24, 2017
    Williamsville, NY USA
    @xtomx2000 thank you for the wonderful tribute to Ute. It is difficult for most people to know how you feel: most people have never experienced this and most people are not raised with any understanding of death.

    My late wife was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer, one of a high percentage of non-smoking women who contract this: no one knows why. After she was diagnosed, we quickly finished restoring our house, sold it, and moved to a condominium that was better suited for her care. She lived the next 1 1/2 years in a very brave and self-directed way, on her feet and self-propelled until just before her last day, and died at home with me in August 2012.

    There are occasions when I miss her terribly, but I really haven't gone through the cycle of grief that's typical. We were together 14 years, she fought and I supported her with everything we had, we left nothing unsaid or unresolved, and her life was done. As she wanted me to do, I'm looking forward and not behind me.

    BTW: We were from the US, but she had lived for 4 1/2 years in Heidelburg Germany. We went to Germany for 2 weeks and visisted friends from Frankfort to Munich. I loved the country and felt very comfortable with the people. I hope to return.
     
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  6. Papa Joe

    Papa Joe Squier-Axpert

    Age:
    90
    Dec 12, 2009
    Swanton Ohio
    My deepest condolences..I know the feeling all too well..
    Be strong my friend..
     
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  7. strat_strummer

    strat_strummer Squier-holic

    Age:
    58
    Nov 24, 2018
    Burnin some Nitro...
    So sorry for your loss, my condolences.
     
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